The hurtful comments posted about me on EP are WRONG | newchrissy's Blog

Note: This blog post is about something unfortunate & unpleasant that is happening to me personally on EP. If you don't care to be upset along with me and don't feel like reading any further you should skip it. I will understand.

Sigh. I tried being friendly & supportive to sierra33 when her family was going though a crisis. You can see exactly what I posted in my comments on her blog post. Stop reading after the comment which starts "NewChrissy---I think your point", (which is at the end of page 1 at the time I'm writing this). Then return here before going on to the next comment.
ht`tp://sierra33.blogs.experienceproject.com/893996.html

sierra33 blocked me somewhere around the end of page 1 so I sent the following message to looking4mywife:

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I wanted to post this on Sierra33's blog but I'm getting a "you may not comment" message. Will you please post it for me? Or ask her to allow me back in long enough that I may post it myself? I don't want to leave things the way they are now.

@looking4mywife: I'm sorry you feel that way, I was only trying to help. I can see that emotions are running high in your family so I'll just leave. I hope everything works out. (For what it's worth, I didn't misquote sierra33, she said that in the third (or maybe it's the fourth) paragraph of her story.)
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Then looking4mywife blocked me too! (What the hell? I was being nice!) Now continue reading the comments on the blog post (that's page 2 as I write this) to see what happened next.

Here's a one paragraph summary of what happened from my point of view: In my very brief interaction with sierra33 I was trying to be friendly & supportive. Instead my remarks were misunderstood and I was blocked without being given an opportunity to explain. That is fine, it was obviously a stressful time for her family and my advice was unwelcome. I attempted to reopen communications through her husband to correct the misunderstanding. That failed and he also blocked me. I was being represented in a bad light but I was blocked and there was nothing else I could reasonably do.

So I left them to their troubles and walked away. I did not block either of them or try to contact them again. That should have been the end to it.

At the time I was periodically posting a list of people who had blocked me unfairly on my whiteboard which said "I've also found a few bad users. Some did something abusive or insensitive which upset me! Or they posted lies about me after blocking me so I couldn't tell my side."

Because they were saying bad things about me in a forum from which I was excluded, I added both of their names to the list, along with the other usernames already there. That's it. I didn't say anything specific about either of them, only about the list of names in general. I simply told the truth from my point of view, that's what they did to me.

Their usernames were only on my whiteboard for a short time because soon afterward I decided on my own to stop posting the list and took it down.

I thought that was the end of it. I didn't know that they continued talking about me with other users on EP and were saying hurtful & unkind things in a second "bash Chrissy" blog post.

Today I was searching EP for my username while looking for something else and accidentally discovered that second blog post. It is "Sunday 6/19/11 Some insults actually make me happy. | sierra33's Blog" at:
ht`tp://sierra33.blogs.experienceproject.com/900608.html

That discussion was going on without my knowledge behind my back because I was blocked and didn't know about the blog post -- that important information was being hidden from me! And even now that I've uncovered their dirty gossip circle I cannot comment on it to defend myself!!

That is wrong. No one should be treated that way and certainly not me. It is an injustice that should be corrected.

The disparaging remarks posted about me there misrepresent who I am and what happened. And they violate the Terms of Service: They identify me by name in a hateful/hurtful way. My blog post here is my appropriate & measured & true response to the wrong they have done me.

I am upset that after I had walked away from the unfortunate miscommunication with sierra33 she felt the need to post a blog discussing me, and did so AFTER she had blocked me so I wouldn't find out about the unkind way she was characterizing me. That is WRONG.

I was unaware that this blog post existed until now or I would have done something earlier. I am quite unhappy that it has been posted all this time (about six months!!!!!!) for others to read & comment upon without my getting a chance to explain what happened from my point of view.

I have considered my possible responses and have decided to make a simple request that sierra33 undo some of the damage she has done to my reputation: I want her to post a new blog entry stating (1) that she didn't bother getting to know me or give me a fair chance before misjudging me and gossiping about me. And (2) that everyone should get to know me on their own without being influenced by her prejudicial remarks.